In human connection, friendship is a cherished, multifaceted bond that influences us in more ways than one can expect. Beyond having someone to lean on, to have fun with, or to simply enjoy the presence of one another, friendships often become our mirrors in who we are. Although not always the case, friends frequently adopt behavioral, linguistic, and fashion quirks from each other, curating an intricate mosaic of anyone they had spent ample time with.
Aside from the complex psychological explanations of behavioral mimicry, the logical explanation of this phenomenon that lies in friendships is simple. Spending significant time with others can result in individuals subconsciously imitating mannerisms, gestures, and even humor! Therefore, it is particularly prominent in friendships, depending on the amount oftime invested in the relationship.
Another term coined for this phenomenon is the Chameleon Effect. Similarly to the chameleon, an animal that alters its skin to match the environment it’s in, humans tend to alter the language or gestures they use depending on who they talk to and spend time with. From facial expressions to linguistic patterns, slang, and lingo, many may notice the alikeness of friends in a friend group, which may also explain why they grow more compatible. Over time, phrases or expressions that may have once been foreign to an individual may be unintentionally incorporated into our day-to-day vocabulary due to the influence of friendships. Avery Yang (10) considers this effect and reflects, “I can see myself in all of my friends… help!”
Furthermore, fashion choices may also reflect the social circle that we surround ourselves with. Fashion is a visible reminder of our self identity; through this form of self expression, it is externally evident how friends influence each other in how they present themselves to the world. Friends may often introduce each other to new fashion trends, brands, or styles. Additionally, many may feel pressured to fit in with their social circle, and begin to adopt the style of the masses.
While friendship bonds can be strengthened and enriched through shared behavior, language, and fashion, it is also crucial to embrace individuality and authenticity. Oftentimes, behavioral mimicry and picking up certain quirks from friends are inevitable, but embracing diversity and genuinity can also prove to enrich friendships and encourage true connection.
With this, a mental query may be prompted: what behavioral, lingual, or fashion quirks have I picked up from my friends? As we navigate through the social scene, recognizing the impact that humans have on one another and embracing individuality, self-expression, and personal growth pose an enriching notion for our relationships.
